Sticks and stones may break my bones,
We create many of our own problems and most of those are the result of careless conversation.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me. We teach that to children so they won’t take hurtful words seriously, but that just isn’t possible. More than any other force on Earth, words can hurt, discourage, depress, and even destroy others.
What we need to do is teach our children to use words to encourage rather than discourage. James understood that the tongue is capable of doing “enormous damage” (James 3:5). Of course, the tongue itself isn’t responsible for what it says. It merely expresses the thoughts in our minds and the feelings in our hearts.
A careful tongue is a tongue in control, especially when it comes to the small stuff–those casual comments, those words spoken “under our breath”–that so easily slip out and so quickly do damage. So teach your children well and listen to your own advice.
We all make many mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way. James 3:2